Mama, do not underestimate the power that decluttering has to lighten your physical and mental load.
No matter what your opinion about Marie Kondo or whether or not you think decluttering is for you… I promise it is. It’s for everyone. And, no, you don’t have to fold your underwear a specific way to benefit from letting go of the things that aren’t serving you.
I’m going to walk you through five simple steps that will help you declutter your mind, your to do list and your physical space. We’re going to talk about brain dumps, turning those brain dumps into action steps, tackling those action steps, riding that momentum into our physical spaces and getting rid of the stuff that holds us back. For good.
Here are 5 simple steps to lighten your physical + mental load:
No.1 Do a brain dump.
Grab a blank piece of paper and a pen. Sit down and just start writing. Anything and everything that is on your mind. Catch up on the laundry. Finish the book on my nightstand. I feel super tired. Do some yoga. Schedule hair cuts for the kids. I really want to soak in the tub tonight. Text my friend to see how she’s doing. Clean out the fridge. Just like that. Freestyle. Get it all out. Feel better?
A brain dump always helps me get every thing that’s been swirling around in my mind down on paper. When I see it in black and white, I can determine what I need to do now and what I can do later. What I’m going to say yes to and what I’m going to let go. At the very least, I’ve decluttered my mind. And a decluttered mind is a quieted mind. Which is to say: hallelujah!
No.2 Turn your brain dump into action steps.
Grab a warm drink… Wait, have you snagged my warm drink guide??? If you haven’t, you can grab it now, whip yourself up one of my favorite recipes and then head back here. I’ll wait. No worries.
Okay, now that you have your warm drink in hand, take that piece of paper that you filled with your brain dump and let’s turn it into something actionable. Take a fresh sheet of paper and divide it into three columns: 1.) Do now 2.) Do later 3.) Let it go. Everything you put on your brain dump sheet goes in one of those three columns.
Tip: it’s helpful to cross out items on your brain dump sheet as you transfer them so you can clearly see where you’re at.
Now that you’ve got that done, let’s take a closer look at column no. 1, the “do now” column.
No.3 Set a timer for 30 minutes + tackle your “do now” column.
Take your “do now” column and number it by priority. Then set that timer for 30 minutes and dig into number one. Yes, just 30 minutes. It doesn’t sound like it will be enough time to get anything done, but I promise it is. I’ve found that when I focus – really focus – for even a short burst of time I am so much more productive.
Keep working until the timer has gone off or you’ve completed your list. If you still have items on your list (which you probably will because life), make an appointment with yourself for tomorrow and do the same thing. Thirty minutes, knock it out. Repeat Steps 1-3 as often as needed.
Phew. Now that you’ve lightened your mental load (and perhaps by default your physical load!), we can move on to decluttering your physical space – your home.
No.4 Make a list of all the spaces in your home.
Okay, we’re going to ride all that momentum you’ve built from tackling your mental space, right out into the physical spaces in your home. This is going to happen in stages, in layers, just like peeling an onion. It’s not going to be once and done in a single sweep. It’s going to take time.
What’s important is starting. We’re going to focus on doing one entire sweep of your home. What I’d like you to do now is make a list of all the spaces in your home, room by room. If you have a rogue closet or storage space or cupboard floating around, write that down, too.
Now, you don’t have to do this step, but it’s been helpful for me so I’m going to mention it. Put a mark by the space or spaces that are causing you the most angst right now. Usually for me, those are my laundry/mud room, the art closet and my closet. Narrowing it down will give you a great place to start the next + final step.
No.5 Choose one space from your list each day + declutter it.
Congrats, mama! You made it to the last step. And this one is so much fun (well, to me, but maybe I’m a weirdo, ha)! It’s tangible and you will feel the results almost immediately. Okay. You’re going to take the list from step 4 and declutter one space per day until you’ve decluttered every space on your list. If you marked the space(es) that give you the most angst, start with one of those. Or, if you feel overwhelmed, start with something small-ish and straight forward like a bathroom or a linen closet.
Either way, choose one space per day to declutter until you’ve worked through your entire house. There are a lot of philosophies out there about how to go about decluttering. I say, do what works best for you. When I declutter, I usually go item by item and make separate piles to give away/throw away/sell. And, honestly, I usually end up giving items away before I spend time trying to sell them, but that’s just me. Unless it’s a big ticket item, it’s usually not worth my time.
Now – and this is key! – after you’ve decluttered every space in your home, load everything up and take it to your local donation center ASAP. No excuses, no delays. If you are decluttering large amounts of stuff, you may want to do a run after every couple of spaces. It’s up to you. Just get it out of your house, out of your trunk and out of your life.
This set of decluttering steps are something I hope you’ll revisit as often as you need to, mama. I know I do. It’s so important to do regular decluttering sessions for our mental health and for the peace of our physical spaces. Remember: it’s not once and done. It takes time to slowly remove the layers. And, as you do, you’ll get braver and braver and better and better at letting go.
This post is part of our #selfcareis series. If you’re new here and not sure where to start, how about reading my self-care story and then jumping on my email list by grabbing My Top 10 Self-care Tips for FREE. I promise I’ll never spam you, mama. My heart is to help you care for yourself well.
XOXO,
Hannah